This blog doesn't get a lot of traffic, it's largely unadvertised and only a few circles of people visit, but that's perfectly fine with me, I never intended for it to be anything more. The primary reason this blog was made was for me to have a place to put tutorials for people who ask me how to do something. For that, it works quite well, but it also makes for a decent place for me to rant when I feel the need.
Now, this post isn't entirely about the guy in the chat log, but it did happen to stir me enough to rant on a long time annoyance of mine and many other women. I've replaced his name in the logs so that this comes off as less of a personal attack on some idiot guy and more like the rant that it is. To get to the meat of this post, skip past log below.
This was completely out of nowhere, enjoy :P.
Anyway, here's the main rant...
I honestly think that many men on SL, various MMOs and online in general are missing the part of their brain that lets them see what complete assholes they're being. They just don't seem capable of grasping it.
This sort of thing is nothing new to me, but I do find it unfortunate that it sometimes takes a while for that side of a person to come out, as was the case for the individual above. Let me stress that over the years, I've gotten a *lot* IMs from horny menfolk who are quick to call me a guy the moment they understand I have no interest in them. Or, often if I just don't feel like I need to validate myself for some random stranger I just met on the internet. It is an issue with Second Life in particular due to the types of people it attracts.
Still, the guy above has never really been the sort of pers...
[3:41] JustAnother DumbGuy: to be honest, I'm just as sexually motivated as any guy out there.
[3:41] JustAnother DumbGuy: and also to be honest, you sexually motivate me lol
[3:44] JustAnother DumbGuy: the problem that I see is that since I can remember, you fit exactly the type of woman that attracts me.
Oh, right, I had forgotten about all that.
...but back to the point I'm trying to make.
See, the thing is, proving I am who I am is the easy part, but my problem is I shouldn't feel like I have to do so. Women shouldn't have to feel forced to verify that they are who say they are, especially when they've never expressed any interest at all in being anything other than a normal friend. Gender should not matter. I tend to be rather private, so unless I'm comfortable around somebody, I'll only reveal the most basic of details. Who are they to make any sort of demands? What's in it for me? Getting to talk to a shallow, desperate and lonely guy? I'm not seeing the motivation.
Why should women exclusively have to submit themselves to the approval of random males, just so said male can feel comfortable having a conversation, regardless of its context? We certainly don't owe it to anyone.
Is it that these guys are just insecure? Do they all have the mentality of a homophobic little boy and want to feel comfortable about that feeling in their pants they get when they're around the opposite sex? Are they really that desperate to flirt? What makes them assume we would want to with them in the first place?
Can't women just log in, talk, play a game and have fun without being pestered by retards? That's really all I want to do. Automatically assuming everyone is male is insulting, women make up a significant portion of the population, you're bound to run into one of us sometime!
I've also noticed that the more knowledgeable a woman is about "geeky" topics, and the more intelligent she is in general, the more likely it is that her gender will come into question...and if, god forbid, a woman happens to be comfortable with her sexuality, it's an instant red flag.
Do so many guys just expect women to be both dumb and prudish? Times have changed, women have far more interests than they used to and know just as much or more than many men who share the same interests. The pathetic thing is, this intimidates many men; they don't want a woman to be smarter than them in any area. They need to feel like they have some sort of dominance, that they're somehow better. It's primitive and stupid.
That, "there are no women on the internet" thing got old a long time ago. Many guys seem to think it's a cute thing to say any time they see a woman online, but chances are she is tired of hearing this every time she meets a new group of people. Knock it off, you're not being original or funny, it's not cute and makes you look like an ass.
If a guy can prove he isn't an immature, insecure, homophobic little prick that doesn't focus on gender (you know, an actual man), I'll happily prove I'm female. In the meantime, women shouldn't have to validate themselves for anyone.